54 years ago
Hey guys! Sorry I haven’t been posting a lot... But I need help. There’s a lot of stuff going on for me run, and it’s not BIG big, but it’s... I dunno. But I need to talk to someone, and this is the best way for me to talk to people. So I’m in this book club at school, it’s called Edition. And so there are kids from my year level (all of them are my close friends) and then there are kids from the year above us. We all got really close offsite, and we have gc’s and everything. (Limit)
HighLadyoftheBookCourt
3 years agoBefore I keep going with that, I think I might be pan?? This is really weird for me bc I go to an all girls school, and I’ve never had any exposure to boys, but I still thought I was straight... I never had any exposure to LGBTQ+ stuff either, until I found RC... So I’m still not sure, but I think that’s what’s happening. So I think I might have a crush on one of the girls? But she has anxiety, and my mum doesn’t want me to talk to her. I don’t get why, I think it’s stupid that she won’t let me-
HighLadyoftheBookCourt
3 years agoTalk to someone just because of a problem they have, and I love being there for her, (and this is even just as a friend, because I have no idea what a crush feels like or whatever, I’m way too inexperienced) but my mum thinks she’s too needy and wants me to not talk to her in a private chat or whatever. I don’t want to ignore what my mum’s saying, I don’t want her to get mad at me, but I don’t want to cut ties with the girl... What can I do?
HighLadyoftheBookCourt
3 years agoOh and I’m really sorry that it’s so disjointed, if you want me to explain again I will... I also may not reply to you for a while bc I’m pretty busy, but I will read everything, and I really appreciate all you amazing people out there!
✝️~Fᴀɴɢɪʀʟ Fᴏʀᴇᴠᴇʀ🦔
3 years agoAs a person who has anxiety attacks I say that knowing someone notices me and doesn’t judge me on my faults or shortcomings means the world and beyond. I get that honoring your mom is important, but her reasons are kinda questionable, unless there’s some other factor I dunno. Just offering my opinion, take or leave at your pleasure:)
Recolorist
3 years agoHey, I'm here so I can help you with some of the LGBT+ stuff but also I recommend trying to talk to your mom(if you are close) about how you should be able to be friends with her and Maybe help her, tell your mom about how you should be able to be able to make new friends and it shouldn't matter if they have a mental disorder.
HighLadyoftheBookCourt
3 years agoI am close with my mum, but I just don’t know if she’d get it... She just- This is all so stupid, my mum’s never done anything like this before, but she says her ‘gut instinct’ tells her that something’s off with the girl, and I can’t get over how stupid it is @🍄woah_doodleZZ🐸🍄
Recolorist
3 years ago@HighLadyoftheBookCourt well just try to talk with her about it and how just because if her disorder it shouldn't be a reason for you not to be friends with her, also tell her how the girl might be really nice and kind but you won't know unless you talk to her,
HighLadyoftheBookCourt
3 years agoYeah ok, I think I’ll definitely try that @🍄woah_doodleZZ🐸🍄
HighLadyoftheBookCourt
3 years agoThank you so much, I really really really appreciate you taking the time to come help me with this! @🍄woah_doodleZZ🐸🍄 It really means a lot to me
Recolorist
3 years ago@HighLadyoftheBookCourt it's no problem! you've helped me so much in the past so I should return the favor
HighLadyoftheBookCourt
3 years ago:’’) You really don’t know how much it means @🍄woah_doodleZZ🐸🍄
Recolorist
3 years ago@HighLadyoftheBookCourt aww well I'm glad I helped
Siriusly Sir Reese😊☺️😍🥰🙃❤️
3 years agoOk,so I’m really bad with the LGBTQ+ stuff so I’ll try my best.......I mean,I understand that your mom doesn’t want you to talk to her and I know that you are close to her so you don’t wanna make her mad by not listening. But I mean,if you want to talk to that girl why is she telling you not to? (Don’t have to answer) I’m not trying to be rude,but it sounds kinda silly that your mom doesn’t want you to talk to her. (I’m so sorry if that sounded rude,I promise I didn’t mean to be rude)
Siriusly Sir Reese😊☺️😍🥰🙃❤️
3 years agoI’m sorry but I honestly don’t know how to help......I’m so sorry
𝙺𝚎𝚎𝚙𝚎𝚛 𝚘𝚏 𝙲𝚊𝚖𝚙 𝙷𝚘𝚐𝚠𝚊𝚛𝚝𝚜
3 years agoOh jeez I wanna help but this is literally all the stuff I’m super bad at... idk man the only thing I got for u is: don’t cut ties cuz someone else says ya should. If u wanna be friends w her, be friends w her. It’s ur life bud and it’s ur choice whatcha do w it. As for the crush thing: I have literally no idea and I’m sorry but if ur pan that’s cool and I’ll def support u. Am sending lots of 💜 ur way so watch out and just go w ur gut cuz it usually Knows What’s Up💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
{~ STAT1C ~}
3 years agoI really want to help you out, but I've never been in a situation like this before. I've had heaps of friend drama though, so I'll use my experience from that to try and help you out 💕
I think that you should talk to your mum about being friends with that girl. Perhaps tell your mum that you really like being around the girl and see what your mum says. But in the end, I really do think that it's up to YOU who YOU are friends with. I get that you want to respect your mother, so maybe just ease -
{~ STAT1C ~}
3 years agointo being closer friends slowly instead of rushing it? I dunno. But I definitely think that talkig to your mother about it in depth might help 😊💕
HighLadyoftheBookCourt
3 years agoOk it’s fine, I think I have a pretty good understanding of all that stuff from RC and all, and I’m still not sure if I AM pan... But I meant I don’t see why I would like or not like someone because of their gender, so... We’ll go with pan XD
She’s telling me not to bc apparently she’s (the girl) giving her ‘a bad feeling’ and her ‘gut feel’ is telling her that she’ll be ’bad for me’. So... I think it’s completely ridiculous, and I don’t see why she thinks that... She says she’s ‘needy’, but-
HighLadyoftheBookCourt
3 years agoShe’s not elaborating when I ask her to.. I’m just trying to figure out how she’s thinking, but the problem is, when she lays out all her points they kinda seem legit... But then I go off and think about it on my own and it seems stupid again. You’re not being rude, it’s perfectly fine, I’d ask the same stuff if I were you... @Sirius Black’s lover😍🥰😊🙃❤️2
HighLadyoftheBookCourt
3 years ago